So I find myself in the position of striking up a relationship with a girl in Second Life for the first time in probably over a year. Part of the reason for this includes some bad-ish relationships, and also partially the fact that I always felt, at least on some level, that I was forcing myself to be someone else when I was with these people.
So here I am thinking of all of these things and, very slowly, possibly getting involved with a girl when a meme of supplying Real Life pictures for Second Life avatars starts going around. When I started my first SL account several years ago, there were a few rules I made for myself, including no pictures and no real life name. I’ve stayed with these rules and a few others I’ve created for myself almost perfectly.
In the beginning I created the rules because it was ‘Second’ Life, not ‘Real Life+’ and I wanted to keep them separate. Now I keep them partially for the same reason and partially because there are things I do in Second Life that I do not do in Real Life and would not imagine doing. If you think I am shy in Second Life, you have no idea how I am in Real Life. Rules help me cope as well as I do in Second Life.
There are things that I do not tell people when I meet them simply out of habit, partially because I think they will not believe me, and partially because I want people to like me. For the record, I don’t keep anything especially shocking or crazy a secret. I am not an alien axe-murder.
I’ve let some people know my ‘secrets’ and for the most part they haven’t cared. It doesn’t mean that when I begin to get close to someone I start asking myself ‘what should I tell them?’ I guess I’ll find out soon.